The first step towards a wider perspective is to notice when you’re stuck in a negative feedback loop. Humans are wired to notice and dwell on the negative.This was a necessary skill back for basic survival but most of us aren’t running from saber tooth tigers or other immediate dangers on a daily basis. However, the part of our brain that sustains this negativity bias is plenty active. Next time you’re experiencing challenging emotions like disappointment, frustration, sadness or anger, acknowledge those feelings and notice if you’re dwelling on them.